We’ve seen proposals in the movies so many times. Here’s how it goes. A dapper gentleman bows his head slightly, overwhelmed by love. He sinks to one knee, and the flustered woman in front of him puts one hand to her heart, the other outstretched to receive the eye-popping sparkler.
But everyone knows that real life isn’t like the movies. Sure, men usually do the asking, but in these modern times, most couples have mutually decided to get married long before an engagement ring enters the scene. Sometimes the man does the proposing, and sometimes it’s the woman.
The problem for women is this: there are all kinds of examples of men proposing to women. But where are the models and tips for women?
Here they are! First, we’ll start with considerations, and then we’ll share some helpful tips on how to propose to your boyfriend.
Pre-Proposal Considerations: Should You Propose to Your Boyfriend?
Before your giddiness spills over into making plans, take a deep breath and consider these issues.
Test the Temperature of Your Relationship
Marriage is a significant step, so spend some time analysing your relationship and making sure you’re in an optimal place. If you feel any hesitation about making it official, concentrate on strengthening your bond before taking it to the next level. If, upon analysis, the two of you are the quintessential marriage-ready duo, forge ahead!
Be Authentic About Your Motives
Some people propose because they want to see where they stand. Don’t do this. Proposing out of a desire for feedback is never a good idea. Additionally, avoid instigating an engagement out of fear of losing the relationship due to timing issues such as a relocation or schedules surrounding work.
Put Yourself in His Shoes
Do you have a clear picture of how your partner feels about marriage? Have you discussed the possibility? What does a mutual future look like? Have you talked through any hang ups or concerns?
Prior to popping the question, find out if you’re on the same page. You’re hoping to hear a thundering ‘Yes!’ when you propose to your boyfriend, so don’t take a gamble.
Popping the Question: How to Propose to Your Boyfriend
Pre-proposal considerations resolved, it’s time to make plans! Instead of co-opting a traditional manly approach, do it your way. Need some tips?
Make it All About Him
If your guy is private and shy, a public proposal at a footy game or a crowded beach might fall flat and cause him embarrassment. So consider his personality and preferences. This is doubly important when proposing to men because it’s unusual for women to do the asking. If you have trouble brainstorming ideas, see where these questions lead you:
- In what settings do you feel most comfortable?
What do you like to do together?
Does he like surprises?
By considering his preferences and comfort, you can pop the question that leads to a happy, “Yes! Let’s do this!”
Choose a Setting
In most cases, a private setting is preferable for proposing to your boyfriend. Could you return to the scene of your first date? Do you have a location that holds particular meaning to your relationship? How about a favourite walking trail at sunset? To avoid unpleasant surprises, check on the availability of the site ahead of time. You don’t want to steel your nerves for the big question and then arrive to see your favourite park closed for maintenance or overrun by a council fair.
Protect His Ego
Major props to you for taking the next step in your relationship. You’re ready to commit and pledge your heart! But be sensitive to the fact that he might feel a bit disappointed if you stole his thunder. To protect his ego, remind him that your proposal doesn’t prohibit him from asking you back (with a sparkly ring!).
Bring Gifts (for Both of You)
And that leads us to a critically important part: don’t expect him to jump in the car and drive to a jeweller to snap up an engagement ring that day. Also, it would be best if you didn’t give him a ring at this point either (or any other promissory jewellery) without buying one for yourself.
Instead of a traditional engagement ring, try matching necklaces, I.D. bracelets or maybe simple, matching gold rings. You’ll want to leave some room for tradition; let him assume his essential role.
Keep it Low-Key
When proposing to your boyfriend, forget about the fireworks and flash mobs. Keep it low-key and sincere, and don’t give yourself too many details to remember. After all, you don’t want to be distracted; this is one of the biggest days of your life!
In short, enjoy the moment. Where you propose is important, but when it comes down to it, the only things that matter are the sweet words between the two of you, whether you’re sitting on the beach in Fiji or on the grass at your favourite local picnic spot.
People worry an awful lot about conventions and traditions, but at the end of the day, you’re a person confessing your undying loyalty to the man you love. Instead of getting caught up in expectations, just be yourself.
Let Us Protect Your Bling!
In the end, the ‘where’, ‘what’ and ‘when’ matter far less than the ‘who.’ Soon, you’ll be walking down the aisle with your dream guy.
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It’s an exciting time in your life, and we’re thrilled for the two of you. Enjoy your engagement and wedding, and we’ll protect your rings so you don’t have to give them another thought.